그동안 수없이 읽었던 마음 다스리기에 대한 책;
저자는 이 책 이전에도 아마 진짜 자기자신을 드러내고 받아들이는 것의 중요성에 대해 책을 내 적이 있나 보다. 책에서 가끔 인용이 된다.
이 책에서는 격려courage, 연민compassion, 연결connection을 통해 온마음을 다해 사는 것에 대해 이야기 하고 있다.
그리고 그를 위해 사랑power of love, 소속belonging 그리고 존재being enough 자체로도 충분함을 느끼는 것이 얼마나 중요한지 이야기 한다.
소제목 정리가 훨씬 도움이 될듯 하다.
#1 Cultivating Authenticity - letting go of what people think
#2 Cultivating Self-compassion - letting go of perfectionism
#3 Cultivating a Resilient spirit - letting go of numbing and powerlessness
#4 Cultivating Gratitude and Joy - letting go of scarcity and fear of the dark
#5 Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith - letting go of the need for certainty
#6 Cultivating Creativity - letting go of comparison
#7 Cultivating Play and Rest - letting go of exhaustion as status symbol and productivity as self-worth
#8 Cultivating Calm and Stillness - letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle
#9 Cultivating Meaningful Work - letting go of self-doubt and "supposed to"
#10 Cultivating Laughter, Song, and Dance- letting go of being cool and "always in control"
그리고 발췌 몇 개;
To practice courage, compassion, and connectino is to look at life and the people around us, and say, "I'm all in."
Worthy now. Not if. Not when.
You'll be fine if you do what you do best - tell stories. Keep it real it honest.
If we really want to live a joyful, connected, and meaningful life, we must talk about things that get in the way.
To feel shame is to be human.
Shame loves perfectionists - it's so easy to keep us quiet.
The four elements of shame resilience : Name it, Talk about it, Own your story, Tell the story.
In the end, being .true to ourselves is the best gift we can give the people we love.
Where perfectionism exst, shame is always lurking. In fact, shame is the birthplace of perfectionism.
The problem is that when we don't claim shame, it claims us.
Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best.
Perfectionism is not self-improvement.
Healthy striving is self-focused - How can I improve? Perfectionims is other-focused - What will they think ?
I've since learned that an attitude is an orientation or a way of thinking and that "having an attitude" doesn't always translate to a behavior.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Comparison is the thief of happiness.
"The opposite of play is not work - the opposite of play is depression.
Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.
There's nothing that says you have to quit your day job to cultivate meaningful work.
To watch us dance is to hear our hearts speak. (Hopi Indians)
My story matters because I matter.
